Reconciliation: The Wisdom Of 7-Year Olds

On the last Saturday before Christmas break, I introduced the belief of a forgiving God to my First Communion class.  The lesson was based on a re-telling of The Prodigal Son.  As usual, the class, the full complement of twenty-one this particular Saturday, participated eagerly in the discussion.

The students had many questions:  what if you keep doing the same sin over and over again – will God still forgive you; what if you break more than one of the Ten Commandments; can you break more than one of the Ten Commandments at a time; what if I do something, but I don’t really mean it, but I do it anyway?  Their examples of mortal and venial sins were varied and showed an understanding of right and wrong.  The class was very lively that morning, drawing answers and insights from the parable as well as real-life incidents from school and home.

To illustrate the teaching of being reconciled to God, I found that the most effective way was a physical demonstration.  Standing very close to the crucifix on my desk showed that when I am reconciled to God through the Sacrament of Confession, I am very close to Jesus.  As I gave examples of different sins, I moved a little or a lot further away from the crucifix depending on whether the sin was venial or mortal.  The children agreed that when we love someone, we want to be close to them, not far away. When I asked the class how I could return to Jesus, there was an almost unanimous raising of hands and some children shouted out, “Tell Jesus you’re sorry!”

“Will Jesus force me to tell Him I’m sorry?” I asked.


“Do I have to really mean it when I say I’m sorry?”


And finally, to drive home the point, “Will God ever stop loving you no matter how bad your sins are?”


I sometimes wonder how many of the bright young children in my class will have the same enthusiasm for the Faith when they become adults.  The Sacrament of Confession, it seems, is what we tend to discard first as we get older and then other teachings also fall away.  Once we lose the humility to acknowledge our sinfulness, we start to lose our faith.

What my Saturday morning class, and my own children when they were younger, demonstrate for me is Jesus’ admonition to become like a little child to enter into the Kingdom of God.  See how enthusiastically the kids learn their lessons, how eager they are to express their opinion and how willing they are to do their catechism homework.  When did we adults start losing that innocence and wonder?  When did we begin moving further and further away from the crucifix and how do we get back?

Our loss of innocence was gradual, almost imperceptible as we became immersed in the demands and cares of life.  Most of us don’t even realize how far away from Jesus we really are.  He stayed right where He always is, in our hearts, calling us to come back to Him but we started down our own self-destructive path in the opposite direction.

This Advent, as we prepare for the birth of our Savour, the time is right for us to turn back to Jesus.  How do we do that?  I think the first thing we ought to do is listen to the profound words of an enthusiastic group of 7-year olds:  “ Tell Jesus you’re sorry!”

Terry McDermott blogs at http://8kidsandabusiness.wordpress.com.  She has been married for 27 years to a man of great integrity and is the proud, tired mom of 6 young men and 2 beautiful young women, ages 24 – 10. She enjoys being her parish’s First Communion catechist. She is a Registered Nurse and a nurse-entrepreneur owner of a nursing foot care business.  St. Joseph, St. Therese, St. Gianna, St. Monica and St. Camillus de Lellis are her go-to saints, along with Our Blessed Mother. She tries to live a life centered on the Gospel through prayer and service. In all things, she strives to be grateful to God and reminds herself daily that “everything is grace” (St.Therese).