Let’s Be Honest About “Women’s Choice”

woman-depressionThis happened to me 20 years ago and I can’t tell you how many times I have heard or read the same story from both pro-lifers and pro-choicers:

You just told him that the pregnancy test is positive but your boyfriend says it’s not a good time to have a baby, so let’s just get rid of this one since it’s legal and easy. Holding your hand, he swears that you will have other children later.

Shortly after the abortion, the couple breaks up. The boyfriend had his eyes on someone else as soon as he heard the word “pregnant”. So the girl had an abortion that was not freely chosen but rationalized to please her boyfriend, clinging to an uncertain future of motherhood that would make up for the bad Karma of the first pregnancy… a future that will never happen.

She has to live for the rest of her life with the guilt of abortion (suppressed or acknowledged), self-hatred for dating a jerk, not standing up for herself and the humiliation of being dumped because she made the ultimate mistake of getting pregnant (all by herself, it seems); thus becoming less “valuable”.

This is how our society produces angry, bitter, broken women who become phobic of marriage and children (and often pro-choice). This is why I support abstinence and teaching young men and women self-control and respect instead of the false security of “safe sex” that leads to broken hearts, broken souls and broken babies.

Beatrice Fedor blogs at 400 Words for Women