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Girls Just Want to Have Fun

A gorgeous jacket caught my eye as I was flipping through an issue of a fashion magazine, trying to find the “perfect” haircut—you know, just cute enough to say I am still “fashionable” yet not too cute as to say “I’m 54 years-old trying to look 30.” The jacket was what I would call “car length.” It was covered in an animal print.

I loved it!

At that point, having lost my focus on trying to find a picture of a perfect haircut to take to my stylist, I intently surveyed the different animal print products—from handbags to pants to shoes—each seeming a bit wild and yet quite appealing. Of course at my age I couldn’t fathom donning a full-on animal print ensemble—or maybe I was never at the correct age to wear such an outfit—but there was still something attractive about an animal print accessory, and most especially that coat!

It just seemed “fun.”

Sometimes, as Christian women, we forget that we are called to have fun. In our day-to-day living in which we embrace our roles as wives and mothers and sisters and care-givers, we forget that there ought to be joy in our journey. Often that joy is a quiet one, maybe it settles upon our spirit during Eucharistic Adoration or it may be found in caring for a sick family member or even in serving food to the homeless; but other times joy is that sheer pleasure of being alive. It is that recognition that God made us uniquely female and that we have an ability to experience our world in a very feminine, fun way.

Time spent with our friends tends to reflect who we are: those who have been created different but equal to men. In the space of a lunch together we can laugh, cry, pray and laugh some more. We have the capacity to contemplate the things of the world while being able to lovingly tend to a scraped knee.

Some of us can bake and sew—this gal has not been given those particular talents—while others may be able to organize school plays or board meetings.

Through it all, with everything that rests upon our shoulders, it is good to remember that we are called to have fun.

When my third son was a youngster I remember that he used to skip everywhere he went. I got such a kick out of watching him skipping to his bike, skipping down the hall to his bedroom and skipping through the grocery aisles. For me, seeing him skip around reflected his innate ability to have fun—his great joy at being alive and very much in the moment.

Ah, youth!

Looking at that animal print jacket in the magazine, I was reminded of my son’s skipping; I was reminded that my journey, too, is meant to be fun. As Christian women we have to be cautious to not get too bogged down in our duties as matriarchs wherein the fun of being alive sort of slowly vanishes.

Fun isn’t just for the young but, as they say, for the young at heart.

None of my friends can understand why I am so anxious for cooler temperatures to arrive. But it will all become clear when they see the fun coat I have to wear!


Cheryl Dickow is a Catholic wife, mother, author and speaker. Cheryl’s newest book is Miriam: Repentance and Redemption in Rome. It is the sequel to her first fiction book Elizabeth: A Holy Land Pilgrimage. Both are available in paperback, Kindle, or Nook format. Her company is Bezalel Books where her goal is to publish great Catholic books for families and classrooms that entertain while uplifting the Catholic faith and is located at www.BezalelBooks.com. To invite Cheryl to speak at your event, write her at Cheryl@BezalelBooks.com or phone her at 248.917.3865.

 


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  • Noel Fitzpatrick

    Cheryl.

    I hope you do not think I am a spy reading your articles, being a
    mere male.

    But I agree fully with you.

    I am reminded of some quotes:

    there’s nothing worth the wear of winning, but laughter and the
    love of friends.

    (Hilaire Belloc, http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/authors/h/hilaire_belloc.html
    )

    Wherever the Catholic sun doth shine,

    There’s always laughter and good red wine.

    At least I’ve always found it so.

    Benedicamus Domino!”

    (Hilaire Belloc, http://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/4025.Hilaire_Belloc)

    I belong to a group, we
    call the Community, consisting of
    four couples and a priest and for over
    25 years fortnightly we used to have Mass, prayers and a meal in our
    houses. Now, as we are old now, and cannot entertain
    we go to a hotel and have drinks and fun.

    I like to think the Lord
    understands and is still with us in our fun.

  • Katherine Anne McMillan

    You need to stop blogging and start reading the Catechism. We are created to know, love and serve God. We are to hate the world and love only God.

    Our Blessed Mother at Lourdes told St. Bernadette, she would never be happy in this world.

    Catholics are divorcing their spouses because they want to have fun and be happy. We are called to suffer. “Take up your cross and follow me.”

    • Mary Kochan

      Yes, fun is completely outlawed. Also smiling. And forget laughing. Oops too late… I see you already have…

    • CDville

      Katherine Anne, in your photo you look like you and your children are laughing together, not suffering, and so it should be. We are to enjoy the gifts God has given us in this world, with gratitude to the Giver. The Song of Songs doesn’t really sound like much suffering, either. (“The Song offers a welcome corrective to negative applications of the
      theological metaphor of the marriage/covenant in some prophetic texts.
      It frequently proclaims a joyous reciprocity between the lovers…” http://usccb.org/bible/scripture.cfm?bk=Song%20of%20Songs&ch=). Jesus was accused of being a glutton and drunkard because he enjoyed the things of the world, in contrast to the austere lifestyle of John the Baptist. We all have temptations to over-indulge, thus temperance is a virtue, but temperance is not to be confused with complete abstinence. We will still have plenty of suffering. Some are truly called to a life of abstinence and suffering, all of us are occasionally called to sacrifice what would have been pleasurable, but overall, we are called to enjoy life.

      • Cheryl Dickow

        This is beautifully said, CDville! Thank you for sharing those words and reminder.