A Letter to My Daughter

My dear daughter,

I know that you feel like no one can possibly understand the way you feel right now.  You think no one has ever felt this way.  You feel alone.  You look around and see couples and feel like the “odd man out.”  What you fail to see are all the other young people your age who are NOT coupled up.  There are many young women in the same place you are in.

The young man who is handsome and caught your eye just broke your heart.  He seems like a nice young man, and I don’t think he meant to hurt you, but he did.  I wish I could take away the hurt.  I wish you would believe me when I tell you that I know exactly how you feel.  I was a young woman with hopes and dreams like yours.  I, too, was surrounded by couples.  I had no dates.

Eventually this changed.  In hindsight, I wish I had not gone out with some of the young men I dated. They broke my heart.   I didn’t ask our Lord to guide me and I eventually “settled” for someone who was steady but did not really love me and drifted further away with each passing year until we wound up divorced.  I don’t want that for you.

You are a princess, a daughter of the King of Kings.  You are fearfully and wonderfully made.  God has a plan for you.

I know that sounds like platitudes.  I know it doesn’t take away the ache you feel right now in the base of your throat and in your heart.  It doesn’t make the tears stop flowing, but Jesus does love you and He wants to fill that emptiness you are feeling.   Turn to Him.  Offer Him your sadness and sorrow.  He will comfort you.



Marie Trebeh is the pen name of a Catholic mom and businesswoman.
Filed under: » »